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A:  So are you almost ready to go?

B:  You’re not going to believe this but I’m not going to be able to make it.  I just remembered that I have to go to Jill’s birthday.  It’s her 30th so it’s a bit of a milestone for her.  I promised her a month ago.  I can’t back out now.

A:  Well you seem to have no problem backing out of our plans.

B:  I know.  Sorry about that.  It was really careless on my part.  I’d obviously rather hang out with you but I know I’ll never hear the end of it from Jill if I miss her B-day.

A:  She’s not even a close friend of yours.  What’s the big deal?

B:  You don’t know Jill.  She’s weird about these things.  She told me that she’d be really upset if I didn’t make it.

A:  So you’re going to let her put a guilt trip on you?  I don’t remember her at your birthday.  You are one sorry man you know that?

B:  So how do you suggest getting out of it?

A:  Make some excuse.

B:  Lie to her?

A:  white lie.  Just do it to spare her feelings.

Key vocabulary and phrases that are discussed in the podcast:
 
Milestone: milestone is some important number or thing that you’ve achieved.  Turning 30, 40, 50 are considered milestones for birthdays.  Maybe Michael Jordan scoring his 1000th point was a milestone for him.  Or when we have 10 000 listeners to our podcast, that will be a milestone for us.

Back out: Backing out of a plan or promise means to try to not do it anymore or try to break your promise.  Maybe you promised your friend you would go to get a tattoo together but you got scared at the last minute and decided not to get one.  Then you backed out.

I’ll never hear the end of it: If you do something that someone else doesn’t like, they might keep talking about it and reminding you of it.  Then that means you will never hear the end of it.  If you are in a relationship and your girlfriend sees that you kissed another girl, then she might not let you hear the end of it. 

B-Day: Sometimes we say B-day instead of birthday in spoken English.  Its very casual and used between friends.

You don’t know Jill: Here, this sentence does NOT mean that you haven’t met Jill, it does means that you don’t know Jill really well, or you don’t know how she would react in certain situations.

Guilt trip: Someone who is trying to make you feel guilty so that you behave in the way that they want you to is putting a guilt trip on you.  If your friend says to you, [bad word] on, you are my best friend.  You have [bad word]  its my birthday, if you [bad word] I’ll be really sad” 
Then they are putting a guilt trip on you.  They want to make you feel guilty so you will go.

Sorry man: man who you feel sorry for.  Very pathetic.  man who is not capable of very much.

Getting out of it: Not doing something that you are scheduled to do.

White lie: lie about something not very important.  If you say that you are 29 but you’re really 30, that is a white lie.

Spare her feelings: Do something to avoid hurting someone’s feelings.  For example, if someone sings you a song and you think they are really horrible at singing, you might tell them that they are not bad to spare their feelings.  If you told them the exact [bad word] then they might get hurt.  This is another example of a white lie.